If your parents and Family members are Unhappy !! YOU ARE IN TROUBLE!!
Honoring one’s parents and the family members is one of the greatest means of drawing close to Allah and one of the best acts of obedience. It is an important right that they (the parents especially) are given in Islamic sharee’ah, so much so that Allah has mentioned obedience to parents alongside obedience to Him, and their rights alongside His rights, in more than one place in His Book (interpretation of the meaning):
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents” [al-Isra 17:23]
“We have instructed man to honour his parents.” [al-Ankaboot 29:8]
This is indicative of the importance of honouring one’s parents and treating them well.And regarding family Members there are various warnings as well as orders. This will be discussed below in detail but for now I'l begin with the below 2 verses
… and fear Allaah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of ) the wombs (kinship)…” [al-Nisa’ 4:1]
“And give to the kindred (family member) his due and to the miskeen (poor)…” [al-Isra’ 17:26]
WHO ALL COME UNDER "KINSHIP" OR "FAMILY" ?
The scholars differed as to the definition of the kindred with whom ties of kinship must be upheld. There are three views:
1- That it means one’s mahrams (those whom one is forbidden to marry)
2- That it means those who will inherit from you
3- That it means all blood relatives, whether they are heirs or not.
The correct scholarly view is the third one, that it refers to all blood relatives – not relatives through breastfeeding – on both the father’s side and the mother’s.
As for the wife’s relatives, they are not kindred (arhaam) for the husband, and the husband’s relatives are not kindred for the wife.
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
Who are one's kindred and relatives? Some people say that the wife’s relatives are not kindred.
He replied:
The kindred (arhaam) are the blood relatives on your mother’s and father’s sides. They are the ones meant in the verses in Soorah al-Anfaal and Soorah al-Ahzaab in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“But kindred by blood are nearer to one another (regarding inheritance) in the decree ordained by Allaah” [al-Anfaal 8:57; al-Ahzaab 33:6]
The closest of them are fathers, mothers, grandparents, children and their children, no matter how far the line of descent goes. Then the next closest and the next closest of brothers and their children, paternal uncles and aunts and their children, and maternal uncles and aunts and their children. It is narrated in a saheeh report from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that someone asked him: “Whom should I honour, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said, “Your mother.” He said: “Then whom?” He said: “Your mother.” He said: “Then whom?” He said, “Your mother.” He said: “Then whom?” He said: “Then your father, then the next closest and the next closest.”
[Narrated by Imam Muslim in his Saheeh Book 32, Hadith 6181; Ibn Maajah Vol. 5, Book 33 Hadith 3658 and there are many similar ahaadeeth. ]
With regard to the wife’s relatives, they are not kindred of her husband, because they are not his relatives, but they are kindred of his children from her. And Allaah is the Source of strength.
Fataawa Islamiyyah (4/195)
WHAT ABOUT THE IN-LAWS ?
The relatives of each spouse are not kindred of the other spouse, but they should still be treated kindly, because that is part of the good treatment of the spouses towards one another, and it is one of the ways of increasing love.
OKAY SO HOW DO WE TREAT OUR IN-LAWS OR FAMILY?
Upholding the ties of kinship may be done in many ways, such as visiting, giving charity, treating them kindly, visiting them when they are sick, enjoining them to do what is good and forbidding them to do what is evil, and so on.
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Upholding the ties of kinship means kind treatment of relatives according to the position of each of them. Sometimes it may be by giving money, sometimes by serving them, sometimes by visiting them, or greeting them, and so on. End quote. Sharh Muslim (2/201).
Shaykh Muhammad al-Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Upholding the ties of kinship depends on what is customary among people, because it is not defined in the Qur’aan and Sunnah in precise terms of type or amount. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not limit it to any specific thing, rather it is general in meaning. Hence reference should be made to what is customary. Whatever is customarily regarded as upholding the ties of kinship is upholding the ties of kinship, and what the people customarily regard as breaking the ties of kinship is breaking the ties of kinship. End quote. Sharh Riyadh al-Saaliheen (5/215)
WHAT DOES HONORING THE PARENTS MEAN?
This could be a very lenghty defination but i will shorten it for the convinience of the reader i shall summarize it as follows
Honouring one’s parents means obeying them, respecting them, praying for them, lowering one’s voice in their presence, smiling at them, lowering the wing of humility to them, not showing displeasure towards them, striving to serve them, fulfilling their wishes, consulting them, listening to what they say, not being stubborn towards them and respecting their friends both during their lifetime and after they have died.
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AHADEETH AND TRADITIONS "SHOUTING OUT LOUD " THE IMPORTANCE OF HOLDING TIES OF KINSHIP
Abu Huraira (r.a)'s Announcement :
أخبرنا أبو عبد الله الحافظ، ومحمد بن موسى، قالا: نا أبو العباس الأصم، نا محمد بن عبيد الله بن المنادي، نا يونس بن محمد المؤدب، نا الخزرج، عن أبي أيوب، عن أبي هريرة، قال: جاء عشية خميس ليلة الجمعة، قال: فقعد الناس حوله، قال: أحرج على كل قاطع رحم إلا قام من عندنا، قال: فقام شاب فأتى عمة له قد حرمها منذ سنين، فسلم عليها، فقالت: ابن أخي ما جاء بك؟ قال: لا، إلا أني قعدت إلى أبي هريرة فقال: أحرج على كل قاطع رحم إلا قام من عندنا، حتى كانت الثالثة، قالت: ارجع إليه فاسأله لم قال ذلك؟ فرجع إليه فقص عليه القصة ما كان من أمره وما قالت له عمته، فقال أبو هريرة: سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: " إن أعمال بني آدم تعرض كل خميس ليلة الجمعة، فلا يقبل عمل قاطع رحم "
"If anyone sitting here has severed any ties of kinship (qata-ur-rahim), he should leave." (and repair his relationship).
The young man recalled his aunt, who lived in the same town but with whom he had not been on speaking terms. The young man quietly left the gathering and went straight to his aunt's home. He met his aunt and asked for forgiveness for his past behavior and sought rapprochement.
When the aunt inquired about the reason for this change of heart, the young man narrated how he had heard Abu Huraira's announcement. His aunt accepted the apology but asked him to inquire from Abu Hurairah, Radi-Allahu anhu, the reason for this unusual announcement. Why, instead of mentioning the major sins, did Abu Hurairah focus only on this issue? What was so special about ties of kinship?
Sayyidna Abu Hurairah replied that he had heard from the Prophet Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam that our deeds are presented to Allah every Thursday night and anyone who has severed family ties has all his good deeds rejected. Abu Hurairah did not want any such person sitting in his gathering, which was held on the same night, for fear that it could deprive the entire gathering of blessings.
Another hadith in Adaab Al Mufrad written by Imam Bukhari, explains further the reason for this fear: "Allah's mercy will not descend on people among whom there is one who severs ties of kinship."
[al-Bayhaqi, Shuab Al-Iman - hadith 7595 and reported in Adaab al Mufrad but classified as Da'eef on pg. 31 da’eef - Irwaa (no. 949) ]
Which Deed is Loved the Most by Allah?
Abdullah bin Mas’ud said, ‘I asked the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), Which deed is loved most by Allah?’ He replied, ‘To offer As-Salat (the prayers) at their early (very first) stated times. Abdullah bin Mas’ud asked, ‘What is next (in goodness)?’ The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, ‘To be good and dutiful to one’s parents.’ Abdullah bin Mas’ud asked, ‘What is next (in goodness)? The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, ‘To participate in Jihad for Allah’s cause.’ Abdullah ibn Mas’ud added, ‘The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) narrated to me these things, and if I had asked more, he would have told me more.’”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol. 8, Book 73, Hadith 2, Sahih Muslim Book 32, Hadith 6180, Adab al-Mufrad Book 1, Hadith 5 and 6]
It is a duty on man to be kind to his parents, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“…be good and dutiful to your parents…” [Al-An’aam 6:151]
It is a must to show gratitude to them in all kinds of ways, as Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“…give thanks to Me and to your parents…” [Luqmaan 31:14]
Abu Hurairah (radi Allahu anhu) narrated: A man came to Allah’s Messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) and said, “O Allah’s Messenger! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your mother.” The man asked ( for the fourth time), “Who is next?” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Your father.”
[Narrated by Imam Muslim in his Saheeh Book 32, Hadith 6181; Ibn Maajah Vol. 5, Book 33 Hadith 3658 ; Sunan at-Tirmidhi Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1897, Adab al Mufrad Book 1, Hadith 3 & 14; and there are many similar ahaadeeth. ]
“I enjoin each one to honor his mother,I enjoin each one to honor his mother,I enjoin each one to honor his mother(three times), I enjoin each one to honor his guardian who is taking care of him, even if he is causing him some annoyance.”
[Sunan Ibn Maajah Vol. 5, Book 33, Hadith 3657]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) heard the recitation of Haarithah ibn al-Nu’maan in Paradise and said:
He attained this level (in paradise) because of Honoring his mother
[ Narrated by Ibn Wahb in al-Jaami’ (22); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (913).]
A'ishah (May Allah be pleased with her) asked the Messenger of Allah (PBUH): "Who has the greatest rights over a woman?" He said, "Her husband." She asked, `And who has the greatest rights over a man?" He said, "His mother."
[Reported by al-Bazzar with a hasan isnad. See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/308, Bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah, Hakim, Fiqh us-Sunnah. But this is a weak (da’eef) hadeeth, which was classed as such by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1212, and he criticized al-Mundhiri for classing it as hasan. However the meaning remains right due to corroborating evidences]
From al-Miqdam bin Ma’adee Karb al-Kindee on the authority of the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- who said: ‘Indeed Allaah orders you to fulfill the rights of your mothers, then to fulfill the rights of close relatives then those who are after them.’
[Collected in ‘Silsilah Saheehah’ No.1666]
From Muhammad who said: ‘There was a date palm which bore one thousand dates, so Usamah bin Zayd –RadhiAllaahu anhu- went to these dates and cut them off the tree due to their beauty. He was asked about it, so he said: Indeed my mother mentioned to me that she would love to have them, and there is nothing from the Duniya that my mother wants and I have the capability of getting except that I will get it for her.’
[Collected in ‘Mukarim al-Akhlaaq’ p.225, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p. 268]
From Ibn Abbas –RadhiAllaahu anhu- that a man came to him and said: ‘I proposed to a woman but she refused to marry me, someone else proposed to her and she liked him and married him. I became jealous over her and I killed her, can I repent from this?’
Ibn ‘Abbas asked: ‘Is your mother alive?’
He answered: ‘No.’
Then Ibn Abbas said: ‘Repent to Allaah –Azza wa Jal- and come close to Him as much as you can.’
The narrator said: I went and asked Ibn ‘Abbas –RadhiAllaahu anhu-: ‘Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive?’
Ibn Abbas –RadhiAllaahu anhu- answered: ‘Indeed I do not know of an action closer to Allaah –Azza wa Jal- than being good to ones mother.’
[Collected by Bukhari in ‘Adab al-Mufrad’ no.4, declared Saheeh by Albaani in ‘Silsilah as-Saheehah’ 2799]
From Abu Hazim that Abu Murrah, the freed slave of Umm Hani the daughter of Abu Taalib informed him that he rode with Abu Hurairah to al-Aqeeq where his land was. When he entered his land he yelled at the top of his voice: ‘O my mother Assalamu alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu’
She replied: ‘Wa alayka assalam wa Rahmatullaahi wa Baraktuhu’
He said: ‘May Allaah have mercy upon you as you brought me up when I was small.’
She said: ‘O my son, and likewise to you, may Allaah reward you with goodness and may He be pleased with you, as you look after me while I am old.’
[Collected by Bukhari in ‘Adab al-Mufrad’ No.14, and Albaani declared it to have a Hasan Isnaad]
From ‘Atta that a person’s mother took an oath from him that he should not pray except the obligatory prayer and not to fast except Ramadan, ‘Atta said: Obey her!’
[Collected in ‘al-Birr’ by Ibn al-Jawzi p.67, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.269]
Muhammad bin al-Munkadir (A Taba`ee) said: ‘I spent the night massaging my mother’s leg and Umar spent the night praying. His night would not make me happier than my night.
[Collected in ‘al-Hileeyah’ 3/150, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.269]
From Ibn ‘Awn who said: ‘Muhammad bin Sireen when he was with his mother , used to lower his voice and speak slowly.’
[Collected in ‘Mukarim al-Akhlaaq’ p.226, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.270]
From Hisham who said: Hafsah bint Sireen used to ask for Allaah’s mercy upon her son Huthayal and say: He would go and get reed and stalks to make a fire, he would peel them and gather them in the summer time, so when it is lit it would not produce smoke. When it came to winter time he would come and sit behind me while I prayed and he would light a small fire so that I could feel the warmth from it and so that the smoke from it would not bother me. I used to say to him O my son it is night time go to your wife and he would say: ‘O mother I know what you want.’
She continued: ‘If I did not continue saying it to him perhaps he would be there till the morning time!’
[Collected in ‘al-Birr’ by Ibn al-Jawzi p.53, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.270]
From al-Hasan bin Nuh who said: Khamas used to work using plaster every day for two small coins, and when the evening would approach he would buy a piece of fruit with that and bring it to his mother!’
[Collected in ‘al-Hileeyah’ 6/212, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.271]
From Mughira who said: Talq bin Habeeb used to help his mother with her work.’
[Collected in ash-Shuyb/7543, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.271]
‘Amr bin Ubayr used to visit Khamas he would greet him with Salaams and sit with him and his companions. So his mother said to him: ‘Indeed I see this person and his companions and I dislike them, and I am not impressed by them so do not sit with them.’ ‘Amr and his companions came to him and he came close to them, and said: Indeed my mother dislikes you and your companions so do not visit me.’
[Collected in ‘al-Hileeyah’ 6/212, taken from ‘Akhbar as-Salaf’ p.272]
Always remember , Allah (s.w.t) said : “His mother bears him with hardship. And she brings him forth with hardship”
[Qur'an, al-Ahqaaf 46:15]
وعن العوام بن حوشب رضي الله عنهـ قال نزلت مرة حيا وإلى جانب ذلك الحي مقبرة فلما كان بعد العصر انشق منها قبر فخرج رجل رأسه رأس الحمار وجسده جسد إنسان فنهق ثلاث نهقات ثم انطبق عليه القبر فإذا عجوز تغزل شعرا أو صوفا فقالت امرأة ترى تلك العجوز قلت ما لها قالت تلك أم هذا قلت وما كان قصته قالت كان يشرب الخمر فإذا راح تقول له أمه يا بني اتق الله إلى متى تشرب هذه الخمر فيقول لها إنما أنت تنهقين كما ينهق الحمار قالت فمات بعد العصر قالت فهو ينشق عنه القبر بعد العصر كل يوم فينهق ثلاث نهقات ثم ينطبق عليه القبر
Footnotes : رواه الأصبهاني وغيره وقال الأصبهاني حدث أبو العباس الأصم إملاء بنيسابور بمشهد من الحفاظ فلم ينكروه
Al-’Awâm b. Hawshab (148H) – Allâh have mercy on him – said:
I once came to an area in one part of which was a graveyard. After ‘asr, one of the graves split open and a man with the head of a donkey and the body of a human came up from it and brayed three times, after which the grave closed back up on him. I then saw an old woman weaving fleece or wool, and a woman said, “Do you see that old woman?” I said, “What about her?” She replied, “That is the mother of this [dead] man.” I asked, “What was his story?” She replied, “He used to drink wine, and whenever he would go out his mother would say, ‘O my son, fear Allâh; until when will you keep drinking wine?’ He would reply, ‘You bray like a donkey.’” The woman said, “He then died after ‘asr, so every day after ‘asr the grave opens up and he brays a few times, then the grave closes up on him again.”
[Al-Hâfidh Abul-Qâsim Al-Asbahânî, Al-Targhîb wa Al-Tarhîb article 471.; Shaykh Nâsir Al-Dîn Al-Albânî graded this narration hasan in his edition of Al-Mundhirî’s Al-Targhîb wa Al-Tarhîb. See Sahîh Al-Targhîb wa Al-Tarhîb hadîth 2517.]
Abdullah ibn Aun set two slaves free because once, when his mother called him, he raised his voice above hers.
(Adh-Dhahabi, Siyar a’laam an-Nubalaa: 6/366, taken from sayings of the scholars page on fb)
Irrespective of the authenticity of this narration ; is it hidden from us or many of us who have seen and witnessed the punishment and wrath that descend upon those children who either due to their wives, job, money, greed, etc neglect and abandon their parents? or misbehave with them to such an extent? We seek refuge in Allah from such an accursed character. I have personally witnessed many incidents wherein Allah's punishment descends upon such good for nothing children. May allah save us from being among them.
Narrated: Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle (Sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said, "A pious slave gets a double reward." Abu Huraira added: By Him in Whose Hands my soul is had it not been for Jihad (i.e. holy battles), Hajj and my duty to serve my mother, I would have loved to die as a (pious) slave.
[Ref: Saheeh al-Bukhaari, Chapter 48, Hadeeth 734]
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TREATING THE MATERNAL AUNT (KHAALA IN URDU) , DAUGHTERS AND SISTERS WITH UTMOST CARE AND RESPECT
Al-Bara ibn Azib reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The maternal aunt has the same status as the mother.”
[Sunan At-Tirmidhi, Book of Righteousness, Number 1904, Sahih]
From Ibn Umar –RadhiAllaahu anhu- who said: ‘A man came to the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- and said: ‘Indeed I have committed a major sin, is there any repentance for me?’
The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘Do you have a mother?’
He answered: ‘No.’
The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘Do you have an aunt (mother’s sister)?’
He answered: ‘Yes.’
The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘Then be good to her.’
[Ref: Tirmidhi, and declared Saheeh by Albani and in the wording collected by Ibn Hibban and Hakim: ‘Do you have parents?’ ‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ p.658 no. 2504]
From Ibn Umar –RadhiAllaahu anhu- who said: ‘A man came to the Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- and said: ‘Indeed I have committed a major sin, is there any repentance for me?’
The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘Do you have a mother?’
He answered: ‘No.’
The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘Do you have an aunt (mother’s sister)?’
He answered: ‘Yes.’
The Prophet -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: ‘Then be good to her.’
[Ref: Tirmidhi, and declared Saheeh by Albani and in the wording collected by Ibn Hibban and Hakim: ‘Do you have parents?’ ‘Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb’ p.658 no. 2504]
Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri narrated that :the Messenger of Allah said: "Whoever has three daughters, or three sisters, or two daughters, or two sisters and he keeps good company with them and fears Allah regarding them, then Paradise is for him
[Ref: Jami'a at-Tirmidhi, Book 27, Hadith 2040, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 79, 77, Also see Sunan Ibn Majah 3670 , Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 76 and Sahih at-Targheeb 1973, ]
Jabir ibn 'Abdullah reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Anyone who has three daughters and provides for them, clothes them and shows mercy to them will definitely enter the Garden.{ (1) and in another narration the prophet said 'they will be a shield against the fire for him} " A man from the people said, "And two daughters, Messenger of Allah?" He said, "And two.
[Ref: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 78, Hasan (1) : Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 76, Sahih al Albaani and Sunan Ibn Majah 3669]
To Look after the Divorced daughter who returns to you
Musa ibn 'Ali reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Shall I show you the greatest sadaqa (or one of the greatest forms of sadaqa)?" He replied, "Yes, indeed, Messenger of Allah!" He went on, "To provide for your daughter when she is returned to you and you are her sole source of provision."
[Ref: Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 80, Da'eef]
Even though this hadeeth is Da'eef, one can still urge to take care of his daughter for many obvious reasons. Why take the risk? It is better to love and care than be humiliated and regretful on the day of Judgement for missing out such an opportunity
Pleasing ones Father or Parents means Pleasing Allah
It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Amr (radi Allahu anhu) that the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said:
رِضَا الرَّبِّ فِي رِضَا الْوَالِدِ، وَسَخَطُ الرَّبِّ فِي سَخَطِ الْوَالِدِ
“The pleasure of the Lord is in the pleasure of one’s father [ the arabic term here is walid which indicates a single parent or a father whereas the one used for both parents and mother generally is walidayn] and the anger of the Lord is in the anger of one’s father.”
[Ref: at-Tirmidhi Vol. 4, Book 1, Hadith 1899 Classed as Hasan by Albani , Also reported in Adab al Mufrad Book1, Hadith # 2]
Abdullah Ibn ‘Abbas (radiyAllahu'anhu):
“There is not a single believer who has two parents and wakes up while he is good to them except that Allah opens up for him two gates to Paradise, and if he makes one of them angry, Allah will not be Pleased with him until that parent becomes pleased with him again.” It was asked: “Even if that parent was oppressive and in the wrong?” It was replied: “Yes, even so. And he never wakes up while he is bad to them except that Allah opens up for him two gates to Hell.”
[Ref: Tambih al-Ghafilin’ p. 84-91]
Once a Sahabi by the name of Jahimah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) came to Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) and said O Nabi of Allah! I came to seek your advice as I intend to go out in the path of Allah. Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) asked: ‘are your parents alive?’ Jahimah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) replied in the affirmative. Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said:
‘stay with them as jannah lies beneath their feet.’
[Ref: Allamah Haythami (rahimahullah) has declared the narrators as reliable (thiqat) in Majma` uz Zawaid, vol.8 pg.138,. See al-Mu`jam al-Kabeer 2/289. Hadeeth number 2202 ]
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Lord is pleased when the parents are pleased and He is angry when the parents are angry.
[Mustadrak al-Haakim 7331 and Sho'bal Emaan of Bayhaqi 7330 and Imam al-Haakim said the sanad of this hadeeth is as per the conditions of Imam Muslim]
Mustadrak al-Hakim : http://www.islamweb.net/newlibrary/display_book.php?
idfrom=7170&idto=7171&bk_no=74&ID=3114
Shu`bal Emaan lil Bayhaqi :-http://www.islamweb.net/hadith/display_hbook.php?bk_no=682&hid=7330&pid=144684
Abu Hurayra (radhiallahu anhu) once saw two men. He asked one of them : “How is this man related to you?” He replied : “ He is my father”. Abu Hurayra said : “Do not call him by his name, do not walk in front of him and do not sit before he does”
[Ref: Adab al-Mufrad of Imam Bukhaaree, Saheeh by Albaanee 1/19 in Saheeh Adab al-Mufrad]
EVEN WORSHIP IS OF NO USE WHEN IT COMES TO PARENTS CURSING YOU !! HERE'S A PROOF :
On the authority of Abu Hurayrah - may Allaah be pleased with him - who said that the Prophet - صلى الله عليه وسلم - said:
“None spoke in the cradle except three:
‘Eesa the son of Maryam,
Jurayj’s companion; Jurayj was a man of worship, he had a place of worship and while he was in it, his mother came in and called upon him. He said to himself; ‘My Lord, my mother or my prayer?’ So he continued praying and she left. The next day she also came and called upon him while he was in prayer, he said to himself; ‘My Lord, my mother or my prayer?’ So he continued praying and again she left. The following day she came again and called upon him while he was in prayer, he said to himself; ‘My Lord, my mother or my prayer?’ So he continued praying.
She said: ‘O Allaah, do not allow him to die until he sees the faces of prostitutes.’
The Children of Israel knew of Jurayj and his worship. There was a very beautiful prostitute who offered to seduce him. She attempted to do so but he did not pay her any attention. She then approached a herdsman who used to seek refuge in his place of worship, she offered herself to him and he slept with her. She became pregnant, and when she gave birth she claimed that it was the child of Jurayj. They went to him, invoked curses over him, destroyed his place of worship and attacked him.
He said: ’Why are you doing this?’
They responded: ‘You fornicated with this woman and she bore you a child.’
He said: ‘Where is the child?’
So they brought him the child.
He said: ‘Leave me until I pray.’
When he finished praying he came to the boy and poked him in his stomach. He said: ‘O child, who is your father?’
The baby boy responded: ‘So and so the herdsman.’
So the people turned to Jurayj, kissing him and asking him for forgiveness. They offered to rebuild his place of worship in gold, but he refused and asked them to rebuild it from mud just as it was before, and so they did.......(cont)
[Collected by both al Bukhaaree and Muslim in The Book of Virtue, Good Manners and Joining of the Ties of Relationship (Kitab Al-Birr was-Salat-I-wal-Adab), Hadeeth 6188]
So, despite his worship and such high piety, the curse of his other CAME TRUE !
The biggest of the greatest sins are to be undutiful to one's parents
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said thrice, “Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the greatest sins?” We said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah” He said, “To join partners in worship with Allah and to be undutiful to one’s parents.” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) sat up after he had been reclining and added, “And I warn you against giving lying speech and a false witness; I warn you against giving a lying speech (forged statement) and a false witness.” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) kept on saying that warning till we thought he would not stop.
[Sahih Bukhari]
Aisha reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, the worst criminal among the people is the poet who satirizes the entire tribe’s family, and the one who disowns his father.”
[Al-Bukhari, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad, Number 870, Sahih]
[Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 13, Saheeh]
He is doomed who does not take care of his parents
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “He is doomed, he is doomed, he is doomed (Ragima Unfuh)” It was said, “Who, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “The person whose parents, one or both of them, reach old age during his lifetime but he does not enter Paradise.”
[Sahih Muslim]
Prophet (s.a.w) said Jibrael (a.s) said " , 'He is doomed, who grows up and both his parents, or one of them is still alive, and they do not cause him to enter Paradise (in the Hadeeth of Musnad Ahmad 7445 the wordings are' then Allah may distance him' )' He (Jibrael) said, 'Say, Ameen.' So, I (Muhammad) said, 'Ameen.''
[ Tirmidhi 3556 and Ibn Hibban - classified Saheeh by Shk. Albani ]
Commentary:
The term “Ragima Unfuh” in the above Hadith of Sahih Muslim (translated above as ‘He is doomed’) literally means ‘may his nose be rubbed in dirt’, the term may also be translated as disgrace, or that this person is a loser.
The above words of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) are encouraging us to be dutiful to our parents especially when they reach old age and weakness by serving them, providing financial support and all other types of good deeds relating to them.
The above Ahadeeth also informs us that obeying and honouring one’s parents is a means of entering Paradise and also informs us that the person who has shortcomings regarding his parents when they reach old age is from those who are doomed and disgraced and is from the great losers for not serving his parents when they reached old age and therefore not earning entrance into Paradise by performing this great deed.
How does a man curse his parents?
Prophet (s.a.w) said " ....Allah cursed him who cursed his parents ... "
[Ref: Sahih Muslim,Book 22, Hadith 4877, Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 17]
[Sahih Al-Bukhari]
Obeying and looking after Parents is Jihaad
A man came to the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) and asked him for permission to go for Jihad. He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said “Are your parents alive?” The man said “Yes” He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said “Then your Jihad is with them.”
[Sahih Muslim]
Commentary:
This shows the greatness of Bir al-Walidayyn (obedience towards parents) because Jihad is from the greatest worships in Islam and is considered to be the pinnacle of Islam, and with that the Messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replaced this worship with the worship of Bir al-Walidayn which shows its virtue and position in Islam.
One of the best act of Birr (Obedience) is to respect his father's friends.
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “The best act of Birr is for a man to uphold ties with the friends of his father.”
[Sahih Muslim]
Commentary:
Imam An-Nawawi mentioned that this also applies to the friends of the mother, grandparents siblings, husband and wife as mentioned in the Hadith whereby the Messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) kept ties with the friends of Khadeejah (radi Allahu anha) after her death.
No child can compensate (the effort , pain, etc of ) his father except...
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “No child can compensate his father unless he finds him a slave, buys him and sets him free.”
[Ibn Majah - Hadith Sahih]
Sa’id ibn Abi Burda said, “I heard my father sat that Ibn ‘Umar saw a Yamani man going around the House while carrying his mother on his back, saying, ‘I am your humble camel. If her mount is frightened, I am not frightened.’ Then he asked, ‘Ibn ‘Umar? Do you think that I have repaid her?’ He replied, ‘No, not even for a single groan.’
[Adab al Mufrad Book 1, Hadith 11]
Commentary:
This Hadith shows the virtue of one buying their father if he is a slave and setting him free whereby the messenger (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) mentioned that no child can compensate their father unless he finds him as a slave, buys him and sets him free.
The reason why this is considered to be compensation is because when the slave is freed by a person, it is as though that person brought them into existence because while they were slaves, their benefit was for others (their masters) and not for themselves and they were denied high status.
So just as the person who frees a slave is as though he brought him into existence, it is like the father who is a reason for bringing his child into existence and that is the compensation.
The majority of scholars agree that once a person buys their father, the father is considered free even if the child does not utter his freedom because Islam refuses to have a parent be a slave towards their child and serve them but rather it is the opposite whereby the child is the one that serves his/her parents and this is from the rights and favours which Islam has granted the parents.
Giving Charity on Your Parents Behalf
‘Aa’ishah (radi Allahu anha) narrated that a man said to the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), “My mother died suddenly and I think that if she could have spoken she would have given in charity [i.e., left instructions that some of her estate be given in charity]. Will I have a reward if I spend in charity on her behalf?” He said, “Yes.”
[Sahih Bukhari and Muslim]
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Seeking Forgiveness for your Parents
The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, Verily the rank of man is elevated in the Paradise. He will ask, ‘How can this be?’ He will be told, ‘ ‘(It is due to) your child asking forgiveness for you.’”
[Silsilah al-Saheehah (1598)]
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), said, “Three supplications are answered without a doubt: the supplication of someone who is oppressed, the supplication of someone on a journey (the traveller), and the supplication of the father against his son.”
[Sunan At-Tirmidhi - Hadith Hasan]
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A child's earning is the earning of the parent
It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah (radi Allahu anha) that the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Among the best of that which a man consumes is what he earns (by his own efforts), and his son (i.e his son's earning) is part of that which he earns.”
[Sunan Abu Dawud - Classed as Sahih by Shk. al-Albaani]
Commentary:
Ibn al-Mundhir (may Allah have mercy upon him) said: The scholars are unanimously agreed that spending on poor parents who have no income or wealth is an obligation on the child’s wealth.
It is obligatory to also spend on grandfathers and grandmothers on the father’s side and on the mother’s. This is the view of the majority of scholars (including the three imams, Abu Haneefah, al-Shaafa’i and Ahmad), because the grandfather is also called a “father”.
You and your wealth belong to your father (or parents)
Abu'd-Darda' said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, recommended nine things to me:
'Do not associate anything with Allah, even if you are cut to pieces or burned. Do not abandon a prescribed prayer deliberately. Anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah's protection. Do not drink wine - it is the key to every evil. Obey your parents. If they command you to abandon your worldly possessions *, then leave them for them. Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in the right. Do not run away from the army when it is advances, even if you are killed while your companions run away. Spend on your wife out of your means. Do not raise a stick against your wife. Cause your family to fear Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.
[Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 18, Hassan al Albaanee]
* = Suppose you are the owner of 6 lakh rupees, and obedience to this hadeeth demands that you sacrifice this amount to make your parents happy. However there are conditions to this and they will be explained under the next hadeeth In sha Allah
Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allah (radi Allahu anhu) said that a man said, “O Messenger of Allah, I have wealth and children, and my father wants to take all my wealth [to spend it on his own needs] and leave nothing.” The Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “You and your wealth belong to your father.”
[Sunan Ibn Maajah - In al-Zawaa’id it says: its Isnaad is Sahih and its men are Thiqaat according to the conditions of al-Bukhari]
Commentary: (A Must read)
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said in his book al-Mughni, commenting on this matter:
“Any father has the right to take whatever he wants of his son’s wealth and to take possession of it, whether the father needs it or not, and whether the son is an adult or a child, provided two conditions are met.
1. The first is that this should not be unfair to the son or cause him any harm, and that the father should not take anything that the son needs.
2. The second is that he should not take from the wealth of one child to give it to another child. This is what was stated by Imam Ahmad (may Allah have mercy on him). This is because it is prohibited for a father to show favouritism in giving to one child from his own wealth, so the prohibition should apply even more to the case of a father taking from one child to give to another.
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem ibn ‘Abd al-Lateef Aal al-Shaykh (may Allah have mercy on him) said the following regarding this issue:
A father is permitted to take from his son’s wealth, because of the sayings of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam): “You and your wealth belong to your father”
[Reported by the five and classed as saheeh by al-Tirmidhi]
And:
“The best of what you consume is what you earn, and your children are part of your earnings”
[Reported by al-Tirmidhi, al-Nisaa'i and Ibn Maajah from ‘Aa’ishah]
The father’s taking from his son’s earnings is subject to six conditions:
1. He should not take what his child needs or the loss of which would cause harm to his child.
2. He should not give it to another of his children.
3. He should not take anything when either of them is on his deathbed.
4. The father should not be a Kaafir (non-muslim) when the son is a Muslim.
5. The wealth should exist in a tangible form.
6. Whatever the father takes from his son becomes his when he takes it with the appropriate intention or a spoken statement.
Allah has forbidden to be undutiful to the mother and parents...
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Allah has forbidden you to be undutiful to your mothers , to withhold (what you should give) or demand (what you do not deserve), and to bury your daughters alive. And Allah has disliked that you talk too much about others , ask too many questions (in religion), or waste your property.”
[Sahih Al- Bukhari]
It was narrated from Salim bin ‘Abdullah that his father said:”The Messenger of Allah said: “There are three at whom Allah will not look on the Day of Resurrection: The one who disobeys his parents, the woman who imitates men in her outward appearance, and the cuckold. And there are three who will not enter Paradise: The one who disobeys his parents, the drunkard, and the one who reminds people of what he has given them.”‘ (Hasan)
[ Sunan an-Nasa'ee ,Vol. 3, Book 3, Hadith 2563]
Taysala ibn Mayyas said, “I was with the Najadites [Kharijites] when I committed wrong actions which I supposed were major wrong actions. I mentioned that to Ibn ‘Umar. He inquired, ‘What are they?” I replied, ‘Such-and-such.’ He stated, ‘These are not major wrong actions. There are nine major wrong actions. They are:associating others with Allah, killing someone, desertion from the army when it is advancing, slandering a chaste woman, usury, consuming an orphan’s property, heresy in the mosque, scoffing, and causing one’s parents to weep through disobedience.’ Ibn ‘Umar then said to me, ‘Do you wish to separate yourself from the Fire? Would you like to enter Paradise?’ ‘By Allah, yes!’ I replied. He asked, ‘Are your parents still alive?’ I replied, ‘My mother is.’ He said, ‘By Allah, if you speak gently to her and feed her, then you will enter the Garden as long as you avoid the major wrong actions.’”
[Adab al Mufrad Book 1, Hadith 8]
Being Dutiful to Non-Muslim Parents
Asma’ bint Abi Bakr (radi Allahu anha) said, “In the time of the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), my mother came to me hoping (I would be dutiful). I asked the Prophet (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam), ‘Do I have to treat her well?’ ‘Yes’ He (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) replied.” Ibn ‘Uyayna (radi Allahu anhu) said, “Then Allah revealed about her’ Allah does not forbid you from being good to those who have not fought you in the deen’ (60:8)”
[Imam Bukhari's "Al-Adab Al-Mufrad" Hadith no: 25]
Commentary (A must read):
The above Incident took place between the treaty of Hudaibiyya (6th year after Hijra) and the opening of Makkah (8th year after Hijra) as other narrations indicate.
The above Hadith shows us the eagerness of Asma’ bint Abi Bakr (radi Allahu anha) in wanting to know the Islamic ruling regarding this specific issue. It also shows how Islam was the most precious thing in the lives of the Sahaba (radi Allahu anhum), even more precious than their own parents.
The above ahadith also informs us that we must be dutiful and maintain ties with our non-muslim parents.
The ayah mentioned above in full is as follows, Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
Allah does not forbid you to deal justly and kindly with those who fought not against you on account of religion and did not drive you out of your homes. Verily, Allah loves those who deal with equity. [Al-Mumtahina 60: 8]
Having your Lifespan and Money increased
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “Whoever would like his Rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.”
[Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5986 and Muslim, 2557]
Severing the Ties of Kinship will forbid Paradise
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “No one who severs the ties of kinship will enter Paradise.”
[Sahih Muslim]
Allah Spoke to the Silah Al Rahmah (Ties of kinship)
Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Allaah created the universe, and when He had finished, kinship (al-rahm) stood up and said, “This is the standing up of one who seeks Your protection from being cut off.” Allaah said, “Yes, would it please you if I were to take care of those who take care of you and cut off those who cut you off?” It said, “Of course.” Allaah said, “Then your prayer in granted.”’” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “Recite, if you wish (interpretation of the meaning): ‘Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allaah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.’ [Muhammad 47:22-23].”
(Saheeh Muslim bi Sharh al-Nawawi, 16/112).
Maintain the ties of kinship if you Believe in Allah and Qiyamah
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “He who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him be hospitable to his guest; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the ties of kinship; and he who believes in Allah and the Last Day, must speak good or remain silent.”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Being Nice even when they are rude is called truly upholding the ties
The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain a relationship with him is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. The one who truly upholds those ties is the one who does so even if they break off the relationship.”
[Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5645]
Be kind to all relatives even if they abuse and insult you
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
A man said to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): "I have relatives with whom I try to keep the ties of relationship but they sever relations with me; and whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, I am gentle with them but they are rough to me." He (ﷺ) replied, "If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do so".
[Ref: Reported by Muslim with commentary by al-Nawawi, 16/115]
The inmates of Paradise are three: One who wields authority and is just and fair, one who Is truthful and has been endowed with power to do good deeds. And the person who is merciful and kind hearted towards his relatives and to every pious Muslim, and one who does not stretch his hand in spite of having a large family to support. And He said: The inmates of Hell are five: the weak who lack power to (avoid evil), the (carefree) who pursue (everything irrespective of the fact that it is good or evil) and who do not have any care for their family or for their wealth. And those dishonest whose greed cannot be concealed even in the case of minor things. And the third. who betray you. morning and evening, in regard to your family and your property. He also made a mention of the miser and the liar and those who are in the habit of abusing people and using obscene and foul language. Abu Ghassan in his narration did not make mention of" Spend and there would be spent for you."
[Sahih Muslim Book 40, Hadith 6853]
Amr ibn Al-‘As reported: I heard the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, saying publicly and not secretly, “Verily, the relatives of my father are not my allies. Verily, only Allah and the righteous believers are my allies. Yet, they have the bonds of kinship and I will uphold their family ties.”
[Ref: Saheeh al-Bukhaari]
The Prophet sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam said :
أفضل الصدقة على ذي الرحم الكاشح
the best charity given is to a relative who hides his enemity
[Ref: Mustadrak al-Hakim, Ahmad, Saheeh]
The Bond of KInship is Suspended from the Throne !!!!
‘Aa’ishah (radi Allahu anha) reported that the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said, “The bond (ties) of relationship (kinship) is suspending from the Throne, and says: ‘He who keeps good relations with me, Allah will keep connection with him, but whosoever severs relations with me , Allah will sever connection with him.’”
[Sahih Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
The best of you is the one who is best to his Family
Aaishah رضي الله عنها narrated: Allaah’s Messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم said: “The best of you is the best among you to his family and I am the best among you to my family. And when one of you dies, do not speak ill of him.”
[Tirmidhee (3895), Ibn Hibbaan (1312) and graded as “Saheeh” by Shaikh al-Albaanee in al-Saheehah (285)]
PUNISHMENTS OF BREAKING OR SEVERING THE TIES OF KINSHIP
The above mentioned ahadeeth are more than enough to describe the importance of upholding the ties of Kinship and the severity of spoiling it. However I'l mention two more and add more later
Punishment # 1:
And those who break the Covenant of Allaah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allaah has commanded to be joined (i.e., they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives), and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse (i.e., they will be far away from Allaah’s Mercy); And for them is the unhappy (evil) home (i.e., Hell).” [al-Ra’d 13:26]
What punishment could be worse than the curse and the evil home that awaits those who sever the ties of kinship ?
7345 - حدثنا علي بن حمشاذ ، العدل - رحمه الله تعالى - وعبد الله بن الحسن القاضي ، قالا : ثنا الحارث بن أبي أسامة ، ثنا محمد بن عيسى بن الطباع ، ثنا بكار بن عبد [ ص: 217 ] العزيز بن أبي بكرة ، قال : سمعت أبي ، يحدث عن أبي بكرة ، رضي الله عنه قال : سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم يقول : " كل الذنوب يؤخر الله ما شاء منها إلى يوم القيامة إلا عقوق الوالدين فإن الله تعالى يعجله لصاحبه في الحياة قبل الممات " .
Abu bakra radhiallahu `anhu narrated that the prophet (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) said Allah may forgive whatsoever sins (one commits) among the (various types of ) sins except disobedience (disloyalty, ungratefulness) towards the parents. Rather he inflicts the punishment (for it) in this world (itself) before (the disobedient child’s) death
[Ref: Mustadrak Al-Haakim, Mishkat al-Masaabeh (4945) and elsewhere]
Tahkeeq : This narration is weak. Imam Hakim though graded this to be saheeh with the sanad by saying هذا حديث صحيح الإسناد ولم يخرجاه . ; yet Imam adh-Dhahabi objected and said “ﺑﻜﺎﺭ ﺑﻦ ﻋﺒﺪ ﺍﻟﻌﺰﻳﺰ ﺿﻌﻴﻒ” i.e Bakr ibn `Abdul `Azeez is (rather) dha`eef (ﺍﻟﻤﺴﺘﺪﺭﻙ ﻟﻠﺤﺎﻛﻢ ﻣﻊ ﺗﻌﻠﻴﻖ ﺍﻟﺬﻫﺒﻲ - 4/172) . Shaykh Albaanee rahimahullah graded this to be dha`eef in his checking of Mishkat . However there is a similar hadeeth, graded saheeh by Shaykh Zubayr and Shaykh Albaanee in Abi Dawood (4902) which will be displayed later on.
3240 - حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الصَّفَّارُ، ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ الْوَاسِطِيُّ، ثنا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ، أَنْبَأَ سُفْيَانُ بْنُ حُسَيْنٍ، عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي إِدْرِيسَ، عَنْ عُبَادَةَ بْنِ الصَّامِتِ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «مَنْ يُبَايِعُنِي عَلَى هَذِهِ الْآيَاتِ» ثُمَّ قَرَأَ {قُلْ تَعَالَوْا أَتْلُ مَا حَرَّمَ رَبُّكُمْ عَلَيْكُمْ} [الأنعام: 151] حَتَّى خَتَمَ الْآيَاتِ الثَّلَاثَ، فَمَنْ وَفَّى فَأَجْرُهُ عَلَى اللَّهِ، وَمَنِ انْتَقَصَ شَيْئًا أَدْرَكَهُ اللَّهُ بِهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا كَانَتْ عُقُوبَتَهُ، وَمَنْ أَخَّرَ إِلَى الْآخِرَةِ، كَانَ أَمْرُهُ إِلَى اللَّهِ، إِنْ شَاءَ عَذَّبَهُ وَإِنْ شَاءَ غَفَرَ لَهُ «هَذَا حَدِيثٌ صَحِيحُ الْإِسْنَادِ وَلَمْ يُخْرِجَاهُ» إِنَّمَا اتَّفَقَا جَمِيعًا عَلَى حَدِيثِ الزُّهْرِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي إِدْرِيسَ، عَنْ عُبَادَةَ «بَايِعُونِي عَلَى أَنْ لَا تُشْرِكُوا بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا» وَقَدْ رَوَى سُفْيَانُ بْنُ حُسَيْنٍ الْوَاسِطِيُّ كِلَا الْحَدِيثَيْنِ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ فَلَا يَنْبَغِي أَنْ يُنْسَبَ إِلَى الْوَهْمِ فِي أَحَدِ الْحَدِيثَيْنِ إِذَا جَمَعَ بَيْنَهُمَا وَاللَّهُ أَعْلَمُ "
[التعليق - من تلخيص الذهبي] 3240 - صحيح]
`Ubadah ibn samit radhiallahu `anhu said : The Messenger of Allah sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam said:
“Who will pledge allegiance to me on these verses [In Surah Al An’am, verse 151],
1. that you do not associate any partners with Him
2. that you are good to your parents
3. that you do not kill your children fearing poverty
Whomsoever fulfills this allegiance, then his reward lies with Allah and whomsoever falls short Allah will take him to task in this world. If Allah does not take him to task in this world then his matter lies with Allah. If He wishes he may forgive him or He may punish him”
[Ref: Mustadrak al-Hakim 2/348 shamela]
Punishment # 2 :
It is narrated on the authority of Abu Bakrah that the Messenger of Allaah , said: “There is no sin more deserving of having its punishment hastened in this world, in addition to what is reserved in the Hereafter for the one who does it, than transgression and cutting ties of kinship.” [Abu Daawood and others - Al-Albaani graded it Saheeh (sound)]
Punishment # 3 :
حَدَّثَنَا يُونُسُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا الْخَزْرَجُ يَعْنِي ابْنَ عُثْمَانَ السَّعْدِيَّ، عَنْ أَبِي أَيُّوبَ - يَعْنِي مَوْلَى عُثْمَانَ - عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: " إِنَّ أَعْمَالَ بَنِي آدَمَ تُعْرَضُ كُلَّ خَمِيسٍ لَيْلَةَ الْجُمُعَةِ، فَلَا يُقْبَلُ عَمَلُ قَاطِعِ رَحِمٍ
[Ref: Al Mundhari in Targeeb wa Tarheeb 3/311 - Thiqah , Majma of Al Haythami 8/154 : Thiqah , Al Suyooti in Jami'a Sagheer 2209 - Hassan, Haythami Al Makke in Al Zawaajar : 2/77 : Thiqah, Albani said Da'eef in Irwa 4/105 but said Hasan in Saheeh Al Targheeb 2538]
Punishment # 4 : NO WORSHIP WILL GUARANTEE PARADISE UNLESS ONE IS OBEDIENT TO HIS PARENTS
Ahmad (24299) narrated that ‘Amr ibn Murrah al-Juhani said: A man came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allah, I bear witness that there is no god but Allah and that you are the Messenger of Allah, I offer the five daily prayers, I give zakaah and I fast the month of Ramadan. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The one who dies in that state will be with the Prophets, the siddeeqs and the martyrs on the Day of Resurrection like this”– and he held up his two fingers – “AS LONG AS HE DOES NOT DISOBEY HIS PARENTS.”
Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh at-Targheeb, 2515
Punishment # 5 : ALLAH SHOWS A BIT OF THE PUNISHMENT IN THIS WORLD
Abu Bakrah reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no sin more deserving for Allah to quicken its punishment in this life – in addition to the Hereafter – other than transgression and cutting off family ties.”
[Sunan Abu Dawud, Book of Manners, Number 4902,Saheeh by Shaykh Zubayr ]
A hadeeth says : " Be kind to your parents, your children will be kind to you. Remain chaste and your wives will be the same"
This Hadith is reported by numerous Sahabah (radiyallahu’anhum) via different chains with varied wordings, and is recorded by the following Imams:
1. Imam Tabarani (rahimahullah) on the authority of Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (radiyallahu’anhuma)
2. Imam Tabarani (rahimahullah) on the authority of Sayyidatuna ‘Aishah (radiyallahu’anha)
3. Imam Hakim (rahimahullah) on the authority of Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (radiyallahu’anhu)
4. Daylami (rahimahullah) on the authority of Sayyiduna ‘Ali (radiyallahu’anhu)
and others.
[Ref: Al-Mu’jamul Awsat, hadith: 1002, & hadith: 6295, Mustadrak Hakim, vol.4 Pg.154, Daylami, hadith: 7597, Al-Ghaylaniyyat, hadith: 95. Also see Targhib, vol.3 Pg.318 & pg.493, Majma’uz Zawaid, vol.8 pg.138-139, La-alil Masnu’ah, vol.2 p.161-162, Tanzihush Shari’ah, vol.2 pg.227, Faydul Qadir, hadith: 3138 & Al-Mudawi, hadith: 2254.]
Also see this : http://islamqa.com/en/ref/72834/kinship
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PLEASE READ THE BELOW AHADEETH : ITS A TRUE GEM !!
Ameerul Momineen Fil Hadeeth - Imam Al Bukhari has compiled a list of approximately 100 Ahadeeth on parents, kinship, their responsibilities, the punishments and etc. In his Book Adaab al Mufrad.
You can read this Book online from : http://books.google.co.in/books?id=GX10oGlKbyQC&pg=PT11&lpg=PT11&dq=Mercy+will+not+descend+on+a+people+among+whom+there+is+one+who+severs+ties+of+kinship&source=bl&ots=ptW3eIUtkO&sig=s88ZvIToDF-Tmzi98_vFZeSB_eg&hl=en&sa=X&ei=mYh9ULvsBYX5rQfdmIC4AQ&ved=0CEIQ6AEwAw
Or you can read some of those beautiful ahadeeth regarding the topic from here : http://www.sunnipath.com/library/Hadith/H0003P0002.aspx
Not All ahadeeth in the Book are Saheeh , a few of them are weak as classified by shaikh Albaani. And with regards to the ahadeeth mentioned in the above link of www.sunnipath.com , the following ahadeeth (mentioned there) are weak :
Hadith no. 47 : pg. 25 da’eef - Irwaa al-Ghaleel (no. 837, 2163). [The hadeeth reported by Muslim is from Abu Hurayrah that a man asked the Messenger of Allaah, "who is the most deserving of my good treatment?" He replied, "your mother, your mother, your mother, your father, then your nearest relatives in order of closeness."]
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Hadith no. 51 : pg. 27 da’eef isnaad - Muhammad bin Abu Musaa is not known, Abu Sa’d (Sa’eed bin Marziyaan) who reports from him is a mudallis.
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Hadith no. 61 : pg. 31 da’eef - Irwaa (no. 949)
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Hadith no. 62. : pg. 31 da’eef isnaad - it contains the shaykh of the author, Muhammad bin Imraan bin Abee Layla who reports from Ayyub bin Jaabir al-Ja’fee and they are both weak. A similar hadeeth is authentically reported from Abu Hurayrah - Irwaa (no. 832)
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Hadith no. 63: pg. 32 da’eef - ad-Da’eefah (no. 1456)
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Hadith no. 66 : pg. 33 da’eef except for the words, "Abu Hurayrah seek refuge from the rule of children and fools." - as-Saheehah (no. 3191)
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Jazakallahu khairan brother may ALLAH reward u the best from his side and increase ur knowledge and amal both..ameen
ReplyDeleteVery comprehensive and beautiful how everything is referenced. JazakumullahuKhairan
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