Tuesday, 4 September 2012

DEFENDING MUHAMMAD (S.A.W) MARRIAGE WITH AISHA



TOPIC : IS MUHAMMAD'S MARRIAGE WITH AYESHA WHEN SHE WAS 6- 9  : BLAMEWORTHY?



A SHORT INTRODUCTION - A MUST READ ! for every HUMAN


This document will refute all those who seem to object/accuse/abuse/etc at the marriage of Prophet (s.a.w) with our Mother A'isha (r.a) when she was 6 years in age and him (s.a.w) consummating the marriage when she was 9 years old. 

Before i begin, please read the following two reminders which many have forgotten : 

1. By the evidence of the star when it goes down. Your companion (Muhammad) does not err, nor does he go astray; Nor does he speak out of desire. It (the commands, actions, teachings of the prophet) is not (i.e it is nothing) but revelation that is revealed [Quran : 53-1:4]

2. Indeed in Muhammad is a good example to follow [Quran 33:21]

Conclusion : Every action, teaching, advise which the prophet (s.a.w) transmits is an act approved by Allah, and as Muslims we have to have faith in this. 

WE (MUSLIMS) ARE LUCKY THAT TILL DATE (2012) NOT ONE HUMAN/ALIEN HAS EVER BEEN ABLE TO PROOF A FLAW IN THE QURAN OR IN OUR RELIGION WHILE ON THE CONTRARY OTHER RELIGIONS HAVE THEIR BOOKS MANIPULATED, CORRUPTED AND WHAT NOT, WHICH MAKES IT EASIER EVEN FOR A 10 YEAR OLD TO REFUTE. THIS MY FRIENDS , IS A BLESSING AND FAVOR FROM ALLAH UPON US !! 

I WILL PROVE THIS ONCE AGAIN BELOW :
Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen (r.h) says in Huqooq Da'at Ilayhal-Fitrah wa Qarrarathash-Sharee'ah (pp.6-7) - The Rights of Allaah’s Messenger :

And from the rights of the Prophet *sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam* is to defend his *Sharee'ah* and his guidance with the strength and capacity at one's disposal, and also in proportion to the attack that it is under.
Thus, if the enemies ore attacking it with false proofs and doubts, then his guidance and *Sharee'ah* should be defended with sound knowledge which refutes such false arguments and clarifies the doubts. If, however, the attack is made by any other types of weapons, then the defence should be made in a similar manner. It is not possible for any Believer to hear of some attack upon the Prophet *sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam's Sharee`ah or his noble personality, and then to keep silent about it - especially when one has the power to counter such on attack.


OBJECTION RAISED :


It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married her when she was six years old, and consummated the marriage with her when she was nine, and she stayed with him for nine years. [Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4840; Muslim, 1422]

How on earth could Muhammad marry a 6 year old and consummate the marriage when she was 9 years old? Would you give your 6 or 9 year old daughter in marraige to a 40 or 50 year old man? Are you insane? This is against Human rights ! ....(abuses censored)...

THE REFUTATION BEGINS  

They (the disbelievers, the Jews and the Christians) want to extinguish Allah's light (with which Muhammad has been sent - Islamic Monotheism) with their mouths, but Allah will not allow except that his light should be perfected even though the Kafiroon (disbelievers) hate (it). [Quran 9:32]

First of All, Muhammad (s.a.w) may have married ayesha (r.a) when she was 6, but he consummated his marriage when she was 9, Thus showing that he waited for 3 whole years until she was mature enough. Isn't it surprising that the entire Arab region back 1432 years never objected to A'isha's marraige to Muhammad (s.a.w) at the age of 6 or 9? An era when the polytheist arabs were desperately waiting for one small tiny opportunity to defame or pin point the fault of Muhammad (s.a.w), left such a big chance to condemn him? [Smile] The reason they (Lakhs of people) didn't make an issue back then for such a matter is because it was not such a big deal for women used to (and even now) mature as early as 9 or 10 or 11 years old and are capable of marriage. 

`Aisha radhiallahu `anha said : 

وَقَدْ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ إِذَا بَلَغَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ تِسْعَ سِنِينَ فَهِيَ امْرَأَةٌ ‏.‏

When (a girl) reaches 9 years of age she is a woman 

[Ref: Tirmidhi and Bayhaqi 1/320] 


Lesson : `Aisha (radhiallahu `anha) herself is affirming that back then female at 9 years of age would be considered to be women . This was the norm back then. Today the norm is shifted. Now we have 11-14 year old children old  enough to have illegal sex, be in a relationship , sell drugs but that's all fine. When it comes to Islam or Muhammad (sallalahu `alayhi wa sallam) islamaphobes cry themselves a river. 

FIRST STAGE : REFUTE USING NON-ISLAMIC SOURCES 

Before i clarify or refute using Islamic sources and explanations, I would first like to chalk out the hypocrisy of these so called "Objectionists"  who desperately await one single opportunity to malign Islam : 


PROOF # 1 : Child brides as young as 8 (eight) were common among the Byzantine (Christian) emperors and nobility but no one abused them for child/women right violation?



Agnes-Anna of France,wife of Alexius II and Andronicus I of the Comneni Dynasty


Lynda Garland
University of New England, Australia


Andrew Stone
University of Western Australia

The child empress Agnes of France was the spouse of two emperors of Byzantium, the boy emperor Alexius II Comnenus, and subsequently Andronicus I Comnenus, the latter's first cousin once removed.  Agnes was born to King Louis VII of France's third wife, Adèle (or Alix) of Blois-Champagne, the daughter of Count Theobald II of Blois, in 1172. This made her the younger sister of the future French king Philip II Augustus. The house of Blois-Champagne was the second most powerful magnate house in France (after the house of Plantagenet).  The emperor Manuel I Comnenus was looking for allies in the west, since the Peace of Venice in 1177 had effectively allied the Pope (Alexander III), the Holy Roman Empire, Venice, the other Italian communes and Sicily against him. After discussion with the count of Flanders, Philip of Alsace, who visited Constantinople in early 1178 on his way back from the Holy Land, Manuel sent an embassy, including Philip, to the French court over the winter of 1178-1179 to secure a match between his son Alexius (born in 1169) and the princess Agnes.[[1]] This match may have been opposed by the members of the house of Blois-Champagne, who were pro-German.[[2]]

According to William of Tyre, Agnes was only eight on her arrival at Constantinople, while Alexius was thirteen; in fact Alexius was born on 14 September 1169.[[3]] Child brides, whether Byzantines or foreign princesses, were the norm rather than the exception, especially from the late twelfth century. Irene Ducaena, wife of Alexius I Comnenus, was twelve at her marriage,and empress before she was fifteen; the Byzantine princess Theodora, Manuel's niece, was in her thirteenth year when she married Baldwin III of Jerusalem; and Margaret-Maria of Hungary married Isaac II Angelus at the age of nine. Agnes's age, then, was not unusual, especially as it was customary for young engaged couples in Constantinople to be brought up together in the house of the socially superior partner.[[4]]


We hear little of Agnes during Alexius' reign (24 September 1180 to prior to 24 September 1183). It is highly unlikely that the match was consummated, as it was customary to import imperial brides from overseas at a young age to enable them to become acquainted with Greek and with their future ceremonial duties; certainly it was unusual under normal circumstances for Byzantine girls to marry before the age of twelve. However, shortly before Alexius completed three years as emperor, Manuel's first cousin Andronicus made himself co-emperor and then usurped Alexius's position altogether, putting him out of the way by having him throttled. Nicetas Choniates then, with morbid relish, claims that Andronicus (who was born c. 1118 and was thus about 65 years of age) sexually exploited the eleven-year old princess.[[13]]


Notes:

[[1]] W. Georgi, Friedrich Barbarossa und die auswärtigen Mächte (Frankfurt am Main, 1990), 324; K. Varzos, He Genealogia ton Komnenon (Thessalonica, 1984), 2.457-60; F. Dölger,Regesten der Kaiserkunden des oströmischen Reiches, vol. 1.2 (Munich & Berlin, 1925), no. 1531.

[[2]]A.F. Stone, 'The Oration by Eustathios of Thessaloniki for Agnes of France: a Snapshot of Political Tension between Byzantium and the West,' Byzantion, 73 (2003), 112-26.

[[3]]William of Tyre, History of the Deeds Done Beyond the Sea, 13.4; P. Wirth, 'Wann wurde Kaiser Alexios II. geboren?' Byzantinische Zeitschrift, 49 (1956), 65-7.

[[4]]One example being Anna Comnena, who was put into the care of her future mother-in-law, the dowager empress Mary of Alania, before she was eight years old so she could be brought up with her fiancé Constantine (Anna Comnena, Alexiad 3.1.4; cf. 2.5.1 for a further example).

[[13]]Choniates, Historia, 275-6.


More References and Source : http://www.roman-emperors.org/aggiefran.htm

Encyclopedia of Roman Emperors : http://www.roman-emperors.org/impindex.htm 

Screenshot 1 : http://i1171.photobucket.com/albums/r551/omarshah29/Romanencyclopedia.jpg

Screenshot 2 : http://i1171.photobucket.com/albums/r551/omarshah29/Byzantinechildmarraige1.jpg


PROOF # 2 : Bible and Talmud (a part of Torah) show that girls as young as 3 years old were raped, killed and sold as slaves yet no one accused them of violating children rights?

Note : By no means, do i intend to offend any Christian or Jew by mentioning these proofs. My sole aim is to refute only those who disrespect and abuse Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) by exaggerating his marriage with A'isha (r.a). I only intend to expose their hypocrisy. 

Before i begin Quoting, please be informed that Muslims believe in All the messengers of Allah (Adam, Noah, Abraham, Moses, Jesus... etc), love and respect them much more than anyone else (who claims to do so). Also we believe that Allah had revealed divine laws some in the form of books (Bible, Torah, ... etc) and some other-ways. However, Allah also mentioned in the Quran that the current Torah (or Old testament) and Bible (Injeel) which were revealed to Moses (p.b.u.h) and Jesus (p.b.u.h) respectively had been corrupted by the later generations of Jews and Christians of that era. Thus  these textures are not preserved entirely and a vast or major portion of it has been corrupted, manipulated and distorted. This is what Allah the most Truthful informed us in the Quran 1432 years ago and is the belief of Muslims, which has been proven today via various Live Debates and comparative religion studies. Hence whatever i quote from the Bible/Torah following the below is not true according to the belief of Muslims, but the people of the book deem it to be true for it is their scripture. 

"Know they not Allah Knoweth what they conceal and what they reveal? And there are among them illiterates, who know not the Book (i.e., the Bible), but (see therein their own) desires, and they do nothing but conjecture. Then woe to those who write the Book with their own hands, and then say: 'This is from Allah,' To traffic with it for a miserable price! Woe to them for what their hands do write, and for the gain they make thereby. [The Noble Quran, 2:77-79]

But the transgressors among them changed the word from that which had been given them so we sent on them a plague from heaven. For that they repeatedly transgressed [Quran 7:162] 


More such verses talking in the same context (or corruption of Bible and Torah) are : 5:13, 5:15, 5:41, 2:159, 2:174, 3:75, 3:187, etc.


(I) Suckling infants were executed by the tens of thousands 

Now go and smite Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and spare them not; but slay both man and woman, infant and suckling, ox and sheep, camel and ass. And Saul gathered the people together, and numbered them in Telaim, two hundred thousand footmen, and ten thousand men of Judah. [Samuel 15:2-4]


A praise for dashing little children against rocks as a form of revenge:


O daughter of Babylon, O destroyed one, O the happiness of him who repayeth to thee thy deed, That thou hast done to us. O the happiness of him who doth seize, And hath dashed thy sucklings on the rock! [Psalm 137: 8-9]

I challenge any Jew or Christian to produce ONE, JUST ONE Noble Verse from the Muslims' Noble Quran that condones killing of innocent children, women or even hostile enemy men who drop their weapons before Muslims (surrender). 

Infact we have several ahadeeth (command of the prophet) who forbade us from killing women, old aged, children, slaves, those who don't fight us, stealing, burning the bodies, cutting them in pieces on purpose, betraying your promise given to them and even trees and farms. Out of the many, two such hadeeth are :


Prophet (s.a.w) said “Go out with Allah’s name upon Allah’s path and fight with those who disbelieve in Allah. Do not indulge in Ghulul (stealing from the war booty), or be treacherous, or mutilate, and do not kill a child.” [Sahīh Muslim the Book of Jihād]

Abdullah ibn ‘Umar (Radhiya Allāhu ‘Anhu) narrates from the Prophet (Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa Sallam) that he found a slain woman in one of the expeditions. So Rasulullah (Sallallāhu ‘alayhi wa Sallam) forbade killing women and children. [Ahmad in his Musnad 2/91, Bukhārī in his Sahīh 3015, Muslim 1744/25, Abū Dāwūd 2668, At-Tirmithī 1569, Ibn Majah 2841]

(II) Girls at the age of 3 were forced into sex 

The below mentioned are only a few selective quotes from the Bible and Talmud which proof the title . Those who wish to read them in detail for a "reality check" can do so, otherwise you may skip to the next heading.  


The Quotes and Proofs for Pedophilia (Child sex abuse)
Please pay attention to the bolded and underlined parts below:The following was taken from http://www.infidels.org/library/modern/guido_deimel/judaism.html regarding Numbers 31:17-18 in the Bible:

"They fought against Midian, as the LORD commanded Moses, and killed every man........Now kill all the boys [innocent kids]. And kill every woman who has slept with a man, but save for yourselves every girl who has never slept with a man.  (Numbers 31:7,17-18)"

Children
Sometimes one has to read a passage twice to believe what has been written in the Sacred Books of Judaism: what has been decreed the way to a holy life by the "sages of blessed memory... whose words are the natural sounds of Judaism" [131]:

Said Rabbi Joseph, "Come and take note: A girl three years and one day old is betrothed by intercourse. And if a Levir has had intercourse with her, he has acquired her. And one can be liable on her account because of the law prohibiting intercourse with a married woman. And she imparts uncleanness to him who has intercourse with her when she is menstruating, to convey uncleanness to the lower as to the upper layer [of what lies beneath]. If she was married to a priest, she may eat food in the status of priestly rations. If one of those who are unfit for marriage with her had intercourse with her, he has rendered her unfit to marry into the priesthood. If any of those who are forbidden in the Torah to have intercourse with her had intercourse with her, he is put to death on her account, but she is free of responsibility [M.Nid. 5:4].
Sanhedrin 7/55B [132]

R. Nahman bar Isaac said. "They made the decree that a gentile child should be deemed unclean with the flux uncleanness [described at Lev.15], so that an Israelite child should not hang around with him and commit pederasty [as he does]."
For said R. Zira, "I had much anguish with R. Assi, and R. Assi with R. Yohanan, and R. Yohanan with R. Yannai, and R. Yannai with R. Nathan b. Amram, and R. Nathan b. Amram with Rabbi [on this matter]: 'From what age is a gentile child deemed unclean with the flux uncleanness [described at Lev.15]'? And he said to me, 'On the day on which he is born.' But when I came to R. Hiyya, he said to me, 'From the age of nine years and one day.' And when I came and laid the matter before Rabbi, he said to me, 'Discard my reply and adopt that of R. Hiyya, who declared, "From what age is a gentile child deemed unclean with the flux uncleanness [described at Lev.15]? From the age of nine years and one day."'
[37A] Since he is then suitable for having sexual relations, he also is deemed unclean with the flux uncleanness [of Lev.15]."
Said Rabina, "Therefore a gentile girl who is three years and one day old, since she is then suitable to have sexual relations, also imparts uncleanness of the flux variety."
That is self-evident!
 Abodah Zarah 36B-37A [133]
 The basis for these rulings is the following Mishnaic passage of Tractate Niddah (filth):

A girl three years and one day old is betrothed by intercourse. "A girl three years old may be betrothed through an act of sexual intercourse," the words of R. Meir. And sages say, "Three years and one day old."
And if a Levir has had intercourse with her, he has acquired her. And they are liable on her account because of the law prohibiting intercourse with a married woman. And she imparts uncleanness to him who has intercourse with her when she is menstruating to convey uncleanness to the lower as to the upper layer. If she was married to a priest, she eats heave offering. If one of those who are unfit for marriage has intercourse with her, he has rendered her unfit to marry into the priesthood. If one of all those who are forbidden in the Torah to have intercourse with her did so, they are put to death on her account. But she is free of responsibility.
If she is younger than that age, intercourse with her is like putting a finger in the eye.
(Mishnah Niddah 5:4) [134]

Thus, one "of the many important issues worked out in the Mishnah concerns proper conduct with women," [135] and the "entire society of Judaism – that is, the community formed by the Torah – found in the Talmud those modes of thought and inquiry, those media of order and value, that guided the formation of public affairs and private life as well." [136]

While it is reassuring to see there was at least some limit as to what the sages would declare holy and moral, this ruling had severe implications on the interpretation of other topics as well. The Tannaïtic Midrash Sifre to Numbers in §157 comments on the above quoted commandment of Moses to kill the Midianite women as well as the male children:

"Now therefore, kill every male among the little ones, and kill every woman that has known a man by sleeping with him.(Num 31:17). 

[This] refers to her who has slept with a man as well as her who is suitable for intercourse, even when she has not slept with a man... But all the young girls who have not known a man by sleeping with him, keep alive for yourselves. From here R. Shimon b. Yohai used to say: a Proselyte girl who became a proselyte in the age of less than three years and one day, is rendered fit to marry into the priesthood." [137]

According to the Tannaïte Rabbis, Moses therefore had ordered the Israelites to kill all women older than three years and a day, because they were "suitable for having sexual relations." [138]

Bibliography:

[130] J. Neusner, The Talmud of Babylonia, vol.XX.A, Tractate Baba Qamma, Atlanta: Scholars Press 1992, 111.
[131] Ibid., vol.XXI.A-D, Tractate Bava Mesia, Atlanta: Scholars Press 1990, p.ix-x.
[132] Ibid., vol.XXIII.B, Tractate Sanhedrin 1984, 150. See also vol.XIX.A, Tractate Qiddushin 10a-b, 1992, 33. "Menstruating" here of course refers to the ritual "flux uncleanness" described in Lev.15.
[133] Ibid., vol.XXV.A, Tractate Abodah Zarah, 1991, 168. Emphasis original.
[134] J. Neusner, The Talmud of Babylonia. A complete outline, Part IV. The Division of Holy Things. B. Number 37. 1995, 704.
[135] Neusner 1993, 41.
[136] Neusner 1995, 7.
[137] Kuhn 1959, §157, 652f. My translation. In general, proselytes are not allowed to marry into the priesthood.
[138] Ibid., §157, footnote 86, 653.



The jewish schools don't even allow women to learn their religion or be experts in it, whereas in Islam we have books mentioning the numerous women scholars , the biggest of them being Aisha (r.a). 

Girls were invariably excluded from the Talmud Torah, for whom religious education was not traditionally deemed obligatory, who were more typically provided secular and worldly education. Some commentators held that religious education for girls was not useful: R. Eliezer, for instance said that "whosoever teaches his daughter the Torah is as one who teaches her frivolity" (Soṭah 21b). Maimonides, on the other hand, held that this prohibition referred only to the Talmud and not to the Bible ("Yad," Talmud Torah, i. 13). In any case, the result was that, traditionally, girls were mostly taught privately, and received a fair education. [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Talmud_Torah]


(III) Fathers sold their daughters as slaves according to the Bible yet no one condemned the Bible for child abuse?


If a man sells his daughter as a female slave, she is not to go free as the male slaves do."If she is displeasing in the eyes of her master who designated her for himself, then he shall let her be redeemed. He does not have authority to sell her to a foreign people because of his unfairness to her. "If he designates her for his son [Note: "his son" means that the master is either her father's age or even much older!], he shall deal with her according to the custom of daughters.  [Exodus 21:7-11http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Exodus+21%3A7-11&NASB_version=yes&language=en&x=9&y=9]

First of all, did the daughter have any choice to be sold off by her father, married off by her master to either himself or his son?  No!

Also, the fact that the master can either marry her or marry her off to his son, means that MOST LIKELY, SHE IS HIS DAUGHTER'S AGE and younger than his son!!  So he's probably at least 30+ years older than her.  Yet, he himself (her father's age or even MUCH older) can marry her.


Also, the fact that there is no AGE LIMIT to how girls in the Bible were sold off and married off to other men, WITHOUT ANY CHOICE, who were much much older than them as also the case with the Biblical Prophets who married 100s of wives each clearly proves the hypocrisy of some Christians who attack Islam through Aisha's very young age, while they clearly ignore the same fact in their own Bible.  Here is a sample of the 100s of wives of the Biblical Prophets
:

In Exodus 21:10, a man can marry an infinite amount of women without any limits to how many he can marry.

In 2 Samuel 5:13; 1 Chronicles 3:1-9, 14:3, King David had six wives and numerous concubines.

In 1 Kings 11:3, King Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines.

In 2 Chronicles 11:21, King Solomon's son Rehoboam had 18 wives and 60 concubines.


(IV) Mary (Maryam p.b.u.h) was 10-12 years old when she gave birth to Jesus (p.b.u.h)

"....it is possible that Mary gave birth to her Son when she was about thirteen or fourteen years of age...." (Source - Catholic Encyclopedia - click here) [2]

According to the "Oxford Dictionary Bible" commentary, Mary (peace be upon her) was was 12 years old when she became impregnated.


Question : Would you marry your daughter to Jesus (p.b.u.h) if she reached her menses? If yes then okay, If No, then don't you trust Jesus? 


(V) Bible does not give an age to marry a girl, but decides the marriage according to PUBERTY ONLY ! 

1 Corinthians 7:36-38 (King James Version) But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age(puberty),and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry

.Ezekiel 16:4-14 it state's a girl after her breast and pubic hair developed he had sex with her, :‘’You grew up anddeveloped and became the most beautiful of jewels. Your  breasts were formed and your  (pubic)hair grew, you who were naked and bare. Later I passed by, and when I looked at you and saw that youwere old enough for LOVE ‘’,

Evidence of Puberty are: A)Breast Formed B) Pubic Hair 

Even: Sam shamoun a Christian missionary who writes Anti-islamic articles about islam on line;

Agrees the Age of consent inthe Bible Ezekiel 16:4-14 is Puberty! This is what SamShamoun said at his website commenting on (Ezekiel 16:4-14) at: http://www.answering-islam.org/Shamoun/marriage_age.htm

(VI) THE CHRISTIAN CHURCH IN HISTORY SET THE AGE FOR MARRIAGE AT JUST: 7-14 YEARS OLD!!!

According to the Journal of Psychology & Human Sexuality, the"age of consent throughout history...usually coincided with the ageof puberty" with "the absolute minimum at seven".Age of Consent throughout history has usually coincided with theage of puberty although at sometimes it has been as early as seven.Early on age of consent was a familial or tribal matter and only became a legal one in the Greco-Roman period. The Romantradition served as the base for Christian Europe as well as the Christian Church itself which generally, essentially based uponbiological development, set it at 12 or 14 but continued to setthe absolute minimum at seven. In the past century there has  been a tendency to raise the age of consent but the reasons for thechange have not always been clear and the issue has been further complicated by the reluctance of many contemporary historians torecognize what the actual age of consent in the past has been. Thisfailure has distorted the importance of biology on age of consent inthe past. 


(VII) Joseph - Mary's husband was 90 years old when he married Mary, now why don't we have "Human rights fanatics" calling Joseph as a pedophile like how they abuse Muhammad ?

Regarding the Marriage of Mary to Joseph, Catholic Encyclopedia ( http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/08504a.htm), says:



"When forty years of age, Joseph married a woman called Melcha or Escha by some, Salome by others; they lived forty-nine years together and had six children, two daughters and four sons, the youngest of whom was James (the Less, "the Lord's brother"). A year after his wife's death, as the priests announced through Judea that they wished to find in the tribe of Juda a respectable man to espouse Mary, then twelve to fourteen years of ageJoseph, who was at the time ninety years old, went up to Jerusalem among the candidates; a miracle manifested the choice God had made of Joseph, and two years later the Annunciation took place."


Note: That article on Catholic Encyclopaedia obtains its information from early Christian writing including apocryphal writings.

The Catholic Encyclopaedia goes on to conclude "...retained the belief that St. Joseph was an old man at the time of marriage with the Mother of God." If Christians do not find any difficulty in accepting "Mother of God" (according to Catholic Encyclopaedia), who was 12-14, marrying a 90 year old man then why do they raise objection towards the marriage of Aisha (RA) to the Prophet?

PROOF # 3: U.S.A, EUROPE, and the world officially allowed marriage with girls up to 10 years or lower until 1912 


The age of sexual consent is still quite low in many places. In Japan, people can legally have sex at age 13, and in Spain they can legally have sex at age 12.  (This data comes from the Age of Consent chart, which you can see at: http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm


The Prophet's contemporaries (both enemies and friends) clearly accepted the Prophet's marriage to `Aisha without any problem. We see the evidence for this by the lack of criticism against the marriage until modern times. However, a change in culture caused the change in our times today.

A 40-year-old man having sex with a 14-year-old woman may be a "pedophile (one indulging in child sexual abuse) " in the USA today, but not in China today (where the age of consent is 14), nor in the USA last century. Biology is a much better standard by which to determine these things in my view, not the arbitrariness of human culture.

***** In the USA last century, the age of consent was 7- 10 years old. California was the first state to change the age of consent to 14, which it did in 1889. After California, other US states joined in and raised the age of consent too.  (Source: http://www.ageofconsent.com/comments/numberone.htm)

*****Campaign to Raise the Legal Age of Consent, 1885-1914 :American reformers were shocked to discover that the laws of most states set the age of consent at the age of ten or twelve,and in one state, Delaware, the age of consent was only 
seven.




PROOF # 4: A Picture and Article showing a 9 year old as a Mother and a 5 year old as a Mother


A 9-year old Thai girl gave birth:

The news item is from the New Straits Times, 10/3/2001.
thaigal.jpg (64206 bytes)

In our world today, we still have people especially in the third world countries, marry very young girls. Why should we call someone who married a 9-year old girl 1400 years ago a child molester, when we still practice it today? The girl above even gave birth at the age of 9!

And should we also call Aisha's (our Prophet's wife) parents child molesters too, since they agreed by their own will and choice to marry their daughter to our Prophet, and they were proud of it too?

5.5 YEAR OLD PREGNANT :  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Lina_Medina.jpg

a five-year-old girl giving birth is apparently true. Her name was Lina Medina, a Peruvian girl from the Andean village of Ticrapo who made medical history when she gave birth to a boy by caesarean section in May 1939 at the age of five years, seven months and 21 days.

Read more at http://www.snopes.com/pregnant/medina.asp#jvOoDLQli5HLb2Ik.99

See BBC REPORT SHOWING HOW OFTEN TEENAGERS LESS THAN 13-15 ARE SEXUALLY HARRASED IN THE U.K : http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-22989030




PROOF # 5: 12 Year Old gets married, Church Bishop marries his 12 year old daughter to another man, 14 year old gives birth , etc etc etc 

Proof : http://www.answering-christianity.com/gypsy_girl.htm Or http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2003/09/30/world/main575953.shtml

Proof http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2011/11/warren-jeffs-married-12-year-old-girl-father-bishop-jessop-conducted-marriage

Proof : http://www.nytimes.com/2005/08/30/national/30baby.html?pagewanted=all


PROOF # 6 : Child marriage and birth a part and parcel of various religion, customs and traditions across the world even till today 

Child marriage in European Judaism culture : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_marriage#European_Judaism

Child Marriage in Africa : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_marriage#Africa

Child marriage in Asia : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_marriage#Asia

Child Marriage in U.S.A and Canada http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_marriage#North_America














Historical Data on Age at Menarche


Ancient Rome 12-14
Medieval Europe 12-14
Medieval Middle East 12-13
Nineteenth Century
Manchester 1840s
working class women 15.7
upper class women 14.6
London 1855 (hospital patients) 15.5
Germany 1869 15.7
Scotland 1870 15.6-16.6
London 1880 (middle class) 15
U.S.A. late 19th century 12-14
Early 20th Century
USA 1905 14-15.7 






MOM HAPPY THAT HER 10 YEAR OLD GAVE BIRTH : 

http://www2.wkrg.com/news/2010/nov/03/mom-happy-that-her-10-year-old-gave-birth-ar-2120081/

http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/11/03/world/main7018522.shtml

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/39975331/ns/world_news-europe/






Earlier this year, a 10-year-old girl in Paraguay made headlines when she arrived at a hospital 20 weeks pregnant. But this was not a one-off case. Last year, more than 700 girls aged 14 and younger gave birth in this South American nation of seven million people.




12-Year-Old Who Was Allegedly Raped By Step-Father, Delivers Baby In Mumbai

http://www.huffingtonpost.in/2015/09/24/mumbai-rape-_n_8187092.html?ncid=fcbklnkinhpmg00000001


Hyderabad: Class 9 student delivers baby in school washroom : http://www.hindustantimes.com/india/hyderabad-class-ix-student-delivers-baby-in-school-washroom/story-kl2P1VFVff8jAkBLoVBnHO.html

Britain’s youngest parents: Girl, 12, gives to birth to 13-year-old boyfriend’s baby

Link: http://metro.co.uk/2014/04/16/britains-youngest-parents-girl-12-gives-to-birth-to-13-year-olds-baby-4700539/


AFTER ALL THESE MODERN DAY EVENTS YOU CLAIM THAT A GIRL BELOW 18 IS NOT FIT FOR REPRODUCTION OR NOT POSSIBLE? THE CULTURE IN SOME PARTS OF THE WORLD EVEN TODAY HAVE THEIR DAUGHTERS HAPPILY MARRIED OFF AT 15 OR 16 AND THEY ALL HAVE BEEN LIVING LIKE THIS FOR CENTURIES. 


PROOF # 7: SCIENCE & OTHER SOURCES SAY : 


The criteria for consummating the marriage (i.e having sexual intercourse with one's wife) is not AGE but PUBERTY (See Proof # 5 above which shows how the world agreed on this criteria) 

Science does not restrict the period of a women's puberty according to the age of the girl. We have billions of women today and it is very common to see girls of the age 12-14 having a fully mature body of a 20 year old. There are some crystal clear symptoms upon having which, the girl or boy is considered to be an individual capable of reproducing. 


Proof: http://health.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=2983

Proof : http://www.healthtouch.com/bin/EContent_HT/cnoteShowLfts.asp?fname=07103&title=PUBERTY+IN+GIRLS+&cid=HTHLTH

According to Collins Thesaurus of the English Language – Complete andUnabridged 2nd Edition. 2002 © HarperCollins Publishers 1995,2002, when searched for the word "puberty" we get the below :


Puberty: The stage of adolescence in which an individual becomes physiologically capable of sexual reproduction.

So if Aisha (r.a) did under go puberty by 9. This rules her out as a child. And according to science girls can under go complete puberty before thirteen


SEE : RIGHTS OF WOMEN IN ISLAM VS RIGHTS WOMEN ELSEWHERE

STAGE TWO (FINAL STAGE) : REFUTING USING ISLAMIC SOURCES 

One of the reasons why Prophet (s.a.w) married A'isha (r.a) : 

He saw a dream about marrying her. It is proven in al-Bukhaari from the hadeeth of ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to her: “You were shown to me twice in a dream. I saw that you were wrapped in a piece of silk, and it was said, ‘This is your wife.’ I uncovered her and saw that it was you. I said, ‘If this is from Allaah then it will come to pass.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 3682). As to whether this is a prophetic vision as it appears to be, or a regular dream that may be subject to interpretation, there was a difference of opinion among the scholars, as mentioned by al-Haafiz in Fath al-Baari, 9/181



1. As mentioned above, the arab pagans , Muslims, Jews, Christians, no one objected to the Marriage of our Prophet (s.a.w) with our mother A'isha (r.a). Apart from the Muslims , there were a vast majority of hypocrites and enemies of Islam who waited vigilantly to grasp one tiny opportunity to defame the Messenger (s.a.w), yet didn't object on this marriage ? Ever wondered why? Because not only in the Arab world, but also in the Roman (and etc) world it was a common practice to see women mature early and be taken as wives and slaves. 

2. For those who abuse our prophet (s.a.w) with allegations that he was a child molestor, Woe to you !. Didn't you notice how the Messenger (s.a.w) married only ONE virgin when he had the power, respect, and freedom to marry hundred virgins? he had 9 wives and all of them were widows or non virgins except A'isha (r.a). 

3. Imam Al Sha'afi (r.h) said " During my stay in Yemen I have come across girls at the age of nine who menstruated so often.” [Siyar A’lam Al-Nubala’, 10/91]

4. Imam Sha'afi (r.h) also said " “I have seen in the city of Sana’a
(In Yemen) a grandmother while she was twenty one. She menstruated at the age of nine and gave birth at the age of 10 [Sunan Al-Bayhaqi Al-Kubra, 1/319]

5. Ibn Al-Jawzi narrated similar stories from Ibn U’qail and Abbad ibn Abbad Al-Muhlabi : Abbad ibn Abbad Al-Muhlabi said: “I have witnessed a woman from Muhlabah who become a grandmother at the age of eighteen. She gave birth (to her daughter) at the age of nine and her daughter gave birth to her child at the age of nine (as well), so the woman became a grandmother at the age of eighteen.” [Tahqeeq Fi Ahadeeth Al-Khilaf, 2/267]



Shaykh Mufti Muhammad Sa`eed khan in his book " Kamseen bacchiyo ki shadiyan " ( the marriage of adolescent girls) " brings some effective points to counter non Muslim arguments who don't mind their small children watching porn and sleeping with 300 guys and girls but mind when Muslims marry their young children realizing they are physically and mentally capable.  He also quotes many such narrations and incidents were similar marriages took place as that of our mother `Aisha's such  as 

`Abdullah ibn `amir the son of the sahaabi `aamir ibn kareez was 12 years old when he married and he had a son the very coming year of marriage so the difference between his son abdur rahman and `abdullah ibn aamir was of 13 years only.  

[Ref: Siyar `alam under `abdullah ibn aamir 7, /3 page 19; ] 

- the uncle of the believers Mu`awiyah married his daughter Hind to `Abdullah ibn `Amir when she was 9 and this way approx 25+ years after the prophet's demise 

[Ref: Tareekh ad-Dimishq under the category of Hind bint Mu`awiyah ibn Abi Sufyan , No. 9781 page 138; also see siyar `alam nubala 6/3/page 18] 

-  Urwah ibn zubair (rahimahullah) the senior most taba`ee - son of the famous Zubair ibnul-`Awwam radhiallahu `anhu and Asma bint Abi Bakr . He married his cousin (paternal uncle's daughter) named Fatima bint Mundhar when she was 9 

[Ref: Ibn `Adi's Al-Kamil under Muhammad ibn Ishaaq ibn Yisaar, Madani, raqam 1623;  7/256] 

Read more from this Link: http://whytheshariah.blogspot.com/2015/08/the-custom-of-marrying-off-children-at.html


Mother `Aisha (r.a) herself said : 

A student of Imam Ishaq bin Rahawayh and Imam Ahmad, Harb bin Isma'il Al-Kirmani (d. 280 AH) states:

حدثنا إسحاق، قال: أنبا زكريا بن عدي، عن أبي المليح، عن حبيب بن أبي مرزوق، عن عائشة -رضي الله عنها-، قالت: إذا بلغت الجارية تسعا فهي امرأة
Ishad [bin Rahawayh] narrated to us on the authority of Zakariyya bin 'Adi from Abu Malih [Al-Raqiy] from Habib bin Abi Marzuq that Aisha (rA) said: "When a girl reaches nine years of age she is a woman."


( Masa'il Harb bin Isma'il Al-Kirmani (Al-Taharah wa Al-Salah), Ed. Muhammad bin Abdullah Al-Sari' (Beirut: Al-Rayan Publishers, 2013) 587, No. 1289; taken from brother waqar akbar cheema)



Brother kaleef kareem commented this in one of the e-mails: 


Narrated ‘Aisha {ra}: (the wife of the Prophet) I had seen my parents following Islam since I attained the age of puberty. Not a day passed but the Prophet visited us, both in the mornings and evenings. My father Abu Bakr thought of building a mosque in the courtyard of his house and he did so. He used to pray and recite the Qur'an in it. The pagan women and their children used to stand by him and look at him with surprise. Abu Bakr was a Softhearted person and could not help weeping while reciting the Qur'an. The chiefs of the Quraish pagans became afraid of that (i.e. that their children and women might be affected by the recitation of Qur'an).
(Sahih al-Bukhari :volume 1, Book 8, Hadith 465)
In the above Hadith, Aisha says that she had seen her parents follow Islam since she ‘attained the age of puberty’. She goes on to say that, a day did not pass, without Prophet Muhammad visiting her (Aisha) and her parents. Reading further down, the Hadith tell us that the Prophet used to visit them in Makkan period. If I am right, the Prophet consummated the marriage in Madinah.

 Additionally, we have another narration where science will attest that Aisha hit puberty before the marriage was consummated. The following report states: 


Narrated Aisha: The Prophet engaged me when I was a girl of six (years). We went to Medina and stayed at the home of Bani-al-Harith bin Khazraj. THEN I GOT ILL AND MY HAIR FELL DOWN. LATER ON MY HAIR GREW (again) and my mother, Um Ruman, came to me while I was playing in a swing with some of my girl friends. She called me, and I went to her, not knowing what she wanted to do to me. She caught me by the hand and made me stand at the door of the house. I was breathless then, and when my breathing became Allright, she took some water and rubbed my face and head with it. Then she took me into the house. There in the house I saw some Ansari women who said, "Best wishes and Allah's Blessing and a good luck." Then she entrusted me to them and they prepared me (for the marriage). Unexpectedly Allah's Apostle came to me in the forenoon and my mother handed me over to him, and at that time I was a girl of nine years of age. (Sahih al-Bukhari Vol. 5, Book 58, Hadith 234)

The above narration is also narrated in ‘Sunan Ibn Majah’:

Aishah said: “The Messenger of Allah married me when I was six years old. Then we came to Al-Madinah and settled among Banu Harith bin Khazraj. I BECAME ILL AND MY HAIR FELL OUT, THEN IT GREW BACK AND BECAME ABUNDANT. My mother Umm Ruman came to me while I was on an Urjuhah with some of my friends, and called for me. I went to her, and I did not know what she wanted. She took me by the hand and made me stand at the door of the house, and I was panting. When I got my breath back, she took some water and wiped my face and head, and led me into the house. There were some woman of the Ansar inside the house, and they said: 'With blessings and good fortune (from Allah).' (My mother) handed me over to them and they tidied me up. And suddenly I saw the Messenger of Allah in the morning. And she handed me over to him and I was at that time, nine years old.” (Sahih) Sunan Ibn Majah volume 3, Book 9, Hadith 1876


It’s important to pay close attention to the above two narrations. Some may wonder, what is important about the part in the narration that is capitalised in bold, where it says, “THEN I GOT ILL AND MY HAIR FELL DOWN. LATER ON MY HAIR GREW”? This part of the Hadith shows explicitly from the point of science that Aisha hit puberty, before the marriage was consummated with the Prophet (p). Hair loss is common among women. Hair loss happens when a girl goes through changes with her body i.e, hitting puberty:    

Shannon Harrison, Melissa Piliang and Wilma explain why, when hair disorders occur:

DEFINITION
Alopecia is the general term for hair loss. Hair loss can occur from the scalp and any hair-bearing part of the body. Hair has great social and cultural importance, and patients with hair loss experience anxiety and concern…..
PREVALENCE
….The most common form of hair loss is androgenetic alopecia (pattern hair loss), which increases with age; at least 80% of white men show some degree of thinning by the age of 70 year. Androgenetic alopecia occurs with the ONSET OF PUBERTY and in males is dependent on circulating androgens. Female pattern hair loss (female androgenetic alopecia) also starts after puberty…  (Current Clinical Medicine: Expert Consult - William D Carey, Online source)

AND

Lisa Akbari:
“Studies show that hair loss affects approximately one third of all women. Although hair loss is most commonly seen after menopause, it can begin as early as puberty.”

(Every Woman's Guide to Beautiful Hair at Any Age: Learn What Can Be Done to keep a beautiful head of hair for a lifetime by Lisa Akbari page 70 -71)



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